Extreme Self-Care for the Bride-to-Be
By Mary Goulet and Heather Reider
Every bride deserves to treat herself like a princess. This is an incredibly unique and special time in your life. Treat it as such and treat yourself to some extreme self-care. After all, you deserve it.
We are two moms with great lives and amazing kids. We host a talk radio show for women called MomsTown Talk Radio. We both had incredible weddings. They may not have been the biggest, most expensive, or most grand of weddings, but they were the kind of weddings every bride wants.
Our goal is to empower women to lead their best lives. It’s our belief this happens when women take care of themselves. We know extreme self-care leads to healthy bodies, healthy minds, and beautiful spirits. So from a couple of moms, who have it all, let us give you our secret to an unforgettable wedding and a truly remarkable life.
The secret is that smart women get more doing less. In the days leading up to your wedding keep in mind your goal is to get maximum results doing less. If you follow our advice you will look your best, feel your best and have less stress on your wedding day.
Following are 20 tips to get more doing less:
1. Less Neglect, More Self-Care.
We hear it all the time; “I wish I had more time for myself.” The fact is no one is going to give you more time for yourself. Make it a priority to find time each day for your thoughts, exercise, a class, alone time, time to rejuvenate yourself. Those who love you will notice and appreciate the difference.
2. Less Food, More Nutrition.
It is no secret we as a nation eat too much food. The quantities are out of control. Contact a nutritionist, even if you don’t need to lose weight, to learn how to eat properly, boost metabolism and gain value from the foods you eat through proper digestion and absorption.
3. Less Sugar, More Fruit.
Eliminating refined sugar products from your diet are a habit away. Oftentimes, we’ve trained our body to crave sugar and the cycle continues. Resist the temptation and before you know it you won’t be craving them any longer. Besides, our bodies need several helpings of fruit a day to maintain optimum health. The bonus is we won’t crash from them either.
4. Less Carbohydrates, More Protein.
Every diet should be balanced with the appropriate amounts of protein, carbohydrates, oils, and fats to maintain equilibrium and promote muscle development and fat burning.
5. Less Stress, More Exercise.
Study after study proves the healthful benefits of exercise. If you’re not exercising or paying attention to the significant proof that exercise helps reduce stress then you deserve to be stressed out. Begin today to move your body. After a few times exercising you’ll crave the feeling. If you’re having difficulty getting motivated to get moving then visualize how you will feel after the workout. Don’t focus on pre-workout feelings.
6. Less Debt, More Money.
Make the commitment to delay instant gratification and save your money. Reframe your thoughts to gain joy and satisfaction paying down credit cards and adding to your savings account. This, too, is a habit worth creating. Spend 15 minutes a day on your finances.
7. Less Talk, More Action.
Stop talking about the activities you’d like to be participating in and just get involved. Stop talking about the things you want in life and develop a plan to get them. Make a “will do” list instead of a “to-do” list. Also, write down at the end of the day what you did that day.
8. Less Chaos, More Organization.
Chaos is unorganized activity that will scatter you’re thoughts and make everyone feel frenzied. Every bride needs an organizer with a special event section dedicated to the wedding. This small tip will make a big difference in the organization of the big event and will give you peace of mind.
9. Less Reaction, More Pro-action.
Learn to be an observer during the day. If we take the time to breathe during interactions, we are more apt to not react emotionally when we receive criticism, a negative email, bad news or just plain chaos. Oftentimes, we tend to take things personal. Stand back and assess the situation from a neutral standpoint to yield a better outcome and more rational discourse. Ultimately, issues can be solved with relationships intact.
10. Less Makeup, More Natural.
Be a blushing bride. Plan to wear makeup that you feel complements you and doesn’t mask you. We realize there will be a lot of flashes going off on your wedding day and we do recommend you look your best, just be aware when too much is too much. You’re beautiful, let that shine through.
11. Less Frustration, More Communication.
When it comes to communicating what matters most is the famous WIIFM–What’s In It For Me? We all want what we want. If we turn that around and really listen to what the other person is saying it may not be that far off from what we ultimately want. Everyone wants to be heard. Lower your frustration by being a good listener and not coming from only your agenda. Stop fighting so hard for your side. Be a master listener. Create win-win results.
12. Less Work, More Play.
Remember to play. Enjoy this time leading up to your wedding. Enjoy your husband-to-be, enjoy your friends, and enjoy your family. Be silly and have fun.
13. Less Rudeness, More Manners.
It’s likely there are a lot of people doing things for you and helping you with your wedding plans. Don’t forget to stop and say, “Thank you.” Be gracious and express your gratitude to others.
14. Less Impatience, More Patience.
When one is impatient it can be a by-product of something underlying that is upsetting them. When you’re short with others ask yourself what’s really bothering you. Not everyone else is always wrong and you’re perfect. Attend to yourself and your patience will rise.
15. Less “What-ifs,” More “What Will Be.”
What-ifs imply fear. Be courageous with your goals and dreams. Do the research, make a plan and put it into action. Make positive statements and ask others for their take on it. No whiner’s allowed. It’s very easy to talk yourself into and out of something everyday. Be bold and go for it.
16. Less Boredom, More Adventure.
It might seem crazy because we know this is a busy time for you, but seek adventure. Learn a new skill or language. Read a book or study a culture. Take up an instrument or learn about current events. Get active and join a sporting group. Life is to be lived, find your interest.
17. Less Soda, More Water.
Did you know soda has similar ingredients to that of plastic? Yuck. There is no argument that water is the best beverage. It will wake you up and refresh you when you’re sleepy during the day. When you’re thirsty you’re body is already in a dehydrated phase. Drink your weight in ounces of water. For example: 100 pounds = 100 ounces of water per day. Space your intake over the course of the day for optimum absorption. If you feel somewhat nauseous it’s just moving the junk through your body and will subside. Also, your body will adapt to the influx of water and you won’t feel like you’re running to the bathroom every half an hour.
18. Less Questioning, More Confidence.
Try not to question the decisions you make. Follow your instinct, intuition, and your heart. Trust your ability to make the right decisions for yourself. Walk with confidence, your shoulders back, and chin up.
19. Less Perfect, More Done.
We believe in striving for perfection while realizing no one is perfect. You can have a perfect day if you keep moving forward. Don’t stop the inspiration that comes with the movement forward. And remember, done is better than perfect.
20. Less Worry, More Peace.
Don’t worry about everyone else. Be gracious, but don’t be consumed by the pressures a wedding can bring about. Find peace in your heart, stop worrying, and you will have a beautifully perfect day.